I'm a firm believer in marriage. You have a stable family, you're financially stable, and you probably don't have a lot of distractions like school. Other than that, young teens starting don't know what they're getting themselves into.
Post by Rai the Space Samurai on Feb 7, 2007 2:24:36 GMT -5
Mid-twenties. I say that because, even once a person legally reaches adulthood they're usually still not mentally ready for children. Mentally ready for sex? Sure, probably. Mentally ready for marriage? Possibly but not likely. Mentally ready for kids? No, generally not. Early adulthood is a time during which most people are just beginning to learn to be responsible for themselves. Moreover, many of them are reveling in their freedom to ditch responsibility all together. It depends on the person, or the couple I suppose, but I'd say most people should wait until their mid-twenties if not later. Not just because they may not be matured enough yet to support the baby but also, for themselves. That way they can have that period of freedom for themselves, that brief time in which they only have to worry about themselves.
Of course, that's not even getting into the people that shouldn't pro-create at all...
Well, First of all you should WANT and REALLY WANT a child. You should be able to fully take care of it yourself! You should have a husband or be married to the person you want to have the child with. You should have seen as much of the world you wanted to before you have a child, because then its about 20 years before you have the chance to do that again. You should make sure you are physically capable of taking care of an infant. And you should love the child! none of this "oh fine lets have a baby and see how this goes" crap... if you meet these requirements i think you are ready and mature enough to have a child.
Post by †Shiro Metsuki† on Feb 19, 2007 23:29:22 GMT -5
Yeah... My gramma teaches in a school of choice, for people who wanna try graduating highschool who haven't. Most are there because they had kids and they are STILL having kids... I know from what I see around me, thousands of children being neglected and everything because these people can't keep it in their pants. Plus most of them are on drugs and live with their parents and have 4 or 5 jobs... So I think this issue shouldn't be about how old you are, it's about how ready you are. As a human race we are all flawed in one way or another but I just wish that people wouldn't just...have kids left and right.